Strong, successful mariages are forged in the fire of conflict, but you need to work through conflict in productive ways. Issues do need to be solved, just not always right now. When you are in the midst of a blow out and things are getting  very heated, one of the two of you needs to catch it and put the brakes on.  Usually it is the one who is the least angry, because the one of tyou who is the  angriest won't see it. Call a time out and take a break, sleep on it if you have  to. You men, especially, need to take notive and if your wives are getting  really mad, you need to bak off. Any guy who has been married very long at all  and has ten cents of a brain will know that the worst thing he can do is keep  pushing buttons and adding fuel to the blaze. (Mark Gungor)